New year, new illusion of a kick start.
You wish for a different life or a big luck happen next year.
But after the 3, 2, 1, count down for “happy new year” shouts, nothing really changes like a magic finger snap.
You still wake up and go through the same motions, same routines, and hope a good surprise appear.
You’ll end up the same.
Unless you stop living in someone else’s dream and design yours.
Your parents, your boss, your habits, your friends, your partner-they will decide your days if you don’t take the control.
What I Mean with Living by Default
Living by default means you let your life as it is.
React on what’s life bring to you
Follow what majority do
Copy someone’s dream
A ‘yes man’ tend to be more living by default as they usually hard to say no to everything. Even at the end, they are the ones who always drained, unfulfilled, or lost.
It doesn’t mean you don’t have value, it’s just you who let your power goes into the wrong way.
Living by default feels comfortable as you will make less decisions or someone make the decisions for you. The more you feel comfort with this default living, the deeper you go to the wrong path.
What I Mean with Living by Design
Living by design means you take control of your life and make decision on your behalf.
You decide to act based on your dream
You focus on what you believe
You choose to be authentic
You feel easy to say no.
Brave enough to say no may lead you to a avoidance, hate or loneliness. But that’s the price.
You know where to put your power.
Living by design built you the habits that serves your goal.
No more people take advantage on you. Even you get rid of toxic people which support your environment to be aligned with your life design.
A designed life is all about the direction that brings you to who you wanna be.
Every step in your life happens because you let them in.
How to Design Your Life
Defining who you are and who you’d like to become.
Age is not a factor whether someone can manage to define who they are.
You can design your life at any age and you can start to design it by answering these two questions:
For you, what is success?
What do you do for your success today?
Tips to answer:
Don’t let parents’ or other peoples’ definition of success define yours.
Your environment push you to do what most people do, don’t fall for it and build your environment that supports your next version.
When you bring your goal into actions, you’ll face what’s work and what doesn’t. Here’s the actual lesson learned. How you manage the obstacle is how you stage up to another level.
Decide Before 2026
A new year wont become magically better.
You will not mastering anything all at one just because the year turning into new.
All you need is a designed life which can lead you to something you aim for.
No design, no plan.
No plan, no systemic actions towards your 2026 goal.
And guess what?
No rules when to start your goals in 2026.
It can be start right now at this moment.
All Choices are Yours
That’s okay to bring hopes in 2026. See how it can become a good luck. Or you can add your framework to add more chance to the luck, a system which even a good luck can’t resist.
Default living is comfort but cost you your unfulfilling life.
Designed living is inconvenient but freedom is the reward.
Living by default or living by design is upon your choice.
Which one are you living of between those two… start today.